Hi, my name is Leelu and I enjoy food.
It sounds so stupid now, but it took me a long time before I could say that. Actually there was a point in time that I couldn’t even admit to being hungry. Others around me would say they were starving, my stomach would be growling and I would be nearly faint from hunger and when asked if I was hungry I would reply “No”. The truth was I was ashamed to admit I was hungry, I was embarrassed of the fact that I enjoyed food. I thought it was weakness, an addiction. Admitting I was hungry was like confessing my worst sin – at least that’s how it felt to me at the time. Obviously this attitude stemmed from my eating disorder and I was only able to overcome it recently
I am now at a point that I can genuinely enjoy food – and not feel guilty about it. But what does bother me is this sort of taboo that comes with girls eating a lot, or hearty portions. Why do girls feel it’s their duty to have the smallest slice of dessert, or eat less then their male companions (no matter how little those aforementioned men actually eat)?
It’s almost like a socially accepted norm that girls should eat only a little food. Guys can dig in, pig out, whatever you want to call it and no one bats and eyelash. But give a girl a BIG piece of chocolate cake, or a good sized burger and all of a sudden all eyes are on her.
This of course is based on the scientific fact that guys overall need more fuel then women. It’s just how we’re made. But with this rules come exceptions. Should a guy that sits at a desk all day really eat more then a female athlete who trains 3-4 hours a day. The answer is – no! Of course this is a black and white example, but there are all sorts of shades of gray in between.
Everyone’s body is different and has different needs. I’m not propagating “pigging” out here, or stuffing yourself with whatever happens to be around. There’s a balance in everything, and I think eating mindfully and making good health choices is incredibly important. But I don’t think that we should succumb to the pressure to minimize our portions of “real” food and up our portions of salad because it’s the “right thing to do”.
I don’t have anything against big salads or anything, just trying to tackle the stereotypes here.
So go ahead and eat your “man sized” ½ cup of oats if that’s what it takes to fill you up (it does me on some mornings). Have an extra slice of bread, an extra serving of protein, and even occasional seconds on dessert. It does not make you a lesser person. In fact some people will admire you for it.
I had a friend who LOVED food. She wasn’t fat, actually she worked out and was very fit – but she had never fallen into the dieting trap that so many of us are drawn too. She shamelessly ate chocolate like it was her job, had seconds on pizza (and occasionally third) and ALWAYS suggested dessert. And guys LOVED her for it. They thought it was so cool to see a girl who actually ate “a decent amount of food” according to them.
I used to be a little bit like that as well, of course this has changes A LOT with time, but I want to get back to this ideal. I am no longer ashamed to enjoy food. I don’t want to stop myself from eating seconds just because I “should”. I’m learning to be proud of the fact that I can listen to my body and do as it says, and I think you should be too 🙂
(I think I should mention that although I may show little portions of food in the pictures I post , I usually eat seconds, or have random snacks throughout the day etc. I still haven’t really figured out my hunger cues yet and so I’d rather serve myself a little and go back for seconds then end up wasting food. Just putting that out there)
What are your thoughts on the issue?
Any male readers – what do you think of girls that eat real portions of food ?